Kyalami Prep Newsletter 9 - 2019

Custodians of HOPE

With the recent Mandela Day Collection held at School, I felt that I would write about a topic that was fundamental to Nelson Mandela’s life, namely optimism and hope. Nelson Mandela was quoted as saying, “I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one's head pointed toward the sun, one's feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.”

Hope is not about wishful thinking, but is a mental trait that develops a feeling of optimism to develop positive attitudes, to enable one to face the most negative times. Dr. Vicki Zakrzewski defines hope as, ‘’ The perceived capability to derive pathways to desired goals, and motivate oneself via agency thinking to use those pathways."

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Kyalami Prep Newsletter 8 - 2019

School report season – parental anxiety, frustration or delight?

As we have entered the halfway mark of the year, school reports have either just been made available or are about to be published. What does this mean for you as a mom or dad? Do you see your child’s achievements as your own personal successes or failures? If so, have you ever looked back at your own school report card and compared your results to that of your child’s at the same age? Are the results similar, or are you expecting an A from your child when you only achieved a C?

As parents, we are often too emotionally involved when it comes to our own children. We get caught in their vortex of stress, catastrophizing, homework, studying, writing tests and exams and then ultimately, the inevitable results. The results, which they believe, together with the verbal and non-verbal feedback they receive from us as parents, peers, friends and family, define them and their worth, as people. Have you ever heard any of the following phrases come from you as a parent?

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